What Does Divorce Feel Like?
Approximately half of all marriages end in divorce. This means that, unless you have spent your entire life in a community where social norms prohibit divorce, you probably know some divorced people, and you were probably in contact with some of them while their divorce case was going on. Maybe your parents even got divorced when you were a child. Until you have experienced your own divorce, however, it is not possible to know how divorce feels. Not everyone experiences the same emotions during and after divorce, and not everyone experiences them along the same timetable, but it is almost certain that how you will feel in the first years following your divorce is substantially different from how you expect to feel. Even though emotional stress is part of the breakup of any marriage, a Boca Raton divorce lawyer can help you resolve the legal matters of your divorce as quickly as possible, so you can be on your way to achieving peace of mind.
People in the Midst of Divorce Are Afraid to Find Out How It Feels
Desperately wishing that your divorce would not happen is a common feeling among people going through a divorce. Surprisingly, you might have spent years wishing that your spouse was out of your life, but now that the divorce papers have been filed, you might feel like you would do anything to have your family back together, even if you were the one who decided to separate or who filed the divorce petition.
Divorce Feels Like a Minefield of Highs and Lows
You might find that your spouse makes you even angrier in divorce court than he ever did at home. Sometimes you might feel that you don’t know how to be an adult without your ex; the last time you washed a load of laundry was before you got married, and now, during your parenting time, you are in charge of laundry for yourself and three children. This might make you feel resentful, sad, hopeless, or some combination thereof.
There are other times when divorce feels like a celebration. Now that you are single, you can watch as many gross out comedies and eat as much junk food as you want, without your ex complaining. You can wear the clothes your ex hates and hang out with the friends your ex never cared for. You can even go on dates, and if you find a new partner, your ex cannot stop you from introducing the new partner to your children.
Divorce Doesn’t Feel Like Much of Anything
Eventually, the emotions about your divorce will subside. Either you will be indifferent to your spouse, and unless you have children together, you might never think about your ex again. In some cases, former spouses can rebuild a relationship as friends and family members, but in other cases, you simply stop caring. In other words, regardless of how you feel right now, your ex-spouse cannot break your heart every day for the rest of your life.
Contact Schwartz | White About Seeing Past the Emotions of Divorce
A South Florida family law attorney can help you make decisions about your divorce case that will lead to long-term wellbeing. Contact Schwartz | White in Boca Raton, Florida about your case.
Source:
newsweek.com/divorce-stages-how-get-over-marriage-ending-grief-denial-acceptance-1767764
