What the Rest of Us Can Learn From Messy Celebrity Divorces
The tabloid press makes it sound like, not only are celebrities effortlessly more beautiful and successful than you are, but they can also divorce their impossibly perfect spouses without breaking a sweat or losing their tempers. Remember Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin’s “conscious uncoupling?” Remember when the court dissolved Gisele Bundchen and Tom Brady’s marriage on the same day that they filed their divorce petition, and then both former spouses immediately went back to being their awesome selves? How rich do you have to be to accomplish that? You are rich enough that your house is in a ritzy neighborhood where the homeowners’ association requires all of its residents to purchase memberships at the local country club. Of course, if you read enough celebrity gossip, you will find out that some divorce cases among the rich and famous are as messy as yours. The difference between you and them is that the media is reporting on all of their drama. Right now, Kevin Costner and his estranged wife Christine Baumgartner are fighting over their mansion that costs more than the entire country club that your HOA required you to join, and right here in South Florida, Phil Collins and his ex-wife Orianne Cevey had an epic battle over the house where they lived together for several years after their divorce became final. While reading celebrity gossip can give you a needed dose of Schadenfreude, only a Boca Raton divorce lawyer can help you resolve your messy situation.
Embrace the Mess, but Don’t Make It Worse
The instability in your life when you are going through a divorce is truly stressful. It is hard to keep smiling and act like everything is normal if you don’t know whether you will ever be allowed to move back into the house where you have been making mortgage payments for more than a decade and where you continue to make payments. It is acceptable to tell your coworkers an un-sensationalized version of events, such as, “My wife and I are getting a divorce. We are waiting for the judge to decide which of us gets to keep our house.” As hard as it is, when you are with your children, you should just listen when the subject turns to your divorce.
Telling a lot of people about all the things your spouse did to ruin your marriage and about how unfair your spouse is being in your divorce case will only make things worse for you. Angry posts on social media or in What’s App chat groups can easily become admissible evidence of your vindictive nature. Trying to make your children think badly of your spouse will make the court less likely to award you the parenting time you are requesting. Whatever you do, don’t grumble to your children about how much you resent paying for the house where their mother lives with her boyfriend.
Contact Schwartz | White About Contentious Divorce Cases
A South Florida family law attorney can help you and your spouse resolve contentious issues such as which one of you gets to stay in the marital home. Contact Schwartz | White in Boca Raton, Florida about your case.