Can a Gray Postnup Prevent Divorce?
Once Spring Break ends, it is full speed ahead to looking forward to summer vacation. Every moment of the countdown is sweet, but many kids find themselves in a terrible mood when they get home after the last day of school, knowing that they do not have to go back to school until months later. After the anticipation comes a crushing sense of ennui; you realize that you can’t stand the siblings, neighbors, and devices that were going to be your companions for the summer vacation that you thought you were going to enjoy until it arrived. Kids usually get out of this bad mood after a few days, once they realize that the summer vacation is temporary and that they had better make the most of their imperfect circumstances before they have to return to the drudgery of school. Retirement is the same problem compounded a hundredfold. The summer vacation is forever, the annoying co-vacationer is your spouse, and the terminus of the bummer summer of indeterminate duration is death. It is no wonder that so many people divorce when they reach this point or see it approaching. You might have contemplated gray divorce with increasing frequency; perhaps gray divorce is the least dark thought you have had since your financial planner started telling you that you need long-term care insurance so urgently that it is worth taking an early withdrawal from your retirement account to pay for it. Meanwhile, you don’t believe in divorce, and you can’t stop thinking about your wedding vows. If you don’t want to divorce, but can’t stand to live like this with your spouse for the rest of your life, contact a Boca Raton prenuptial and postnuptial agreements lawyer.
Talking About Your Values Isn’t Just for Young People
Money isn’t the problem; it’s the way your spouse listens to conspiracy theory podcasts at high volume or constantly crows on social media about body positivity. Maybe your spouse has always been that way, but you were too busy parenting and trying to make it to your next payday to notice. Gray divorce has been on the rise in many countries for the past few decades; in Japanese, its name translates to “retired husband syndrome.”
A postnuptial agreement is the closest thing you can get to a legal separation in Florida, where you stay legally married but separate your finances. It doesn’t legislate which rooms of the house you can play your old school hip hop in, but it does say which items of property are yours to do with as you choose. If you and your spouse want to live in separate houses to keep the peace, a postnup can make this financially feasible. Even if you stay living in the same house, you might be able to keep the peace by putting in writing that the money from your spouse’s 401(k) is hers to spend on your financially irresponsible adult children, but she can’t touch the money from your 401(k).
Contact Schwartz | White About Late in Life Marital Negotiations
A South Florida family law attorney can help you draft a postnuptial agreement to prevent gray divorce. Contact Schwartz | White in Boca Raton, Florida about your case.
Source:
psychologytoday.com/us/blog/home-will-never-be-the-same-again/202108/why-the-divorce-rate-for-older-couples-continues-to
