Comforting Thoughts to Help You Get Through the Holidays in the Midst of Divorce
With the possible exception of young children, the holidays are a bummer for everyone except people who lack the self-awareness to realize how bummed out they are. If you are single, you get all the Schadenfreude from your family about your loneliness, or else a guilt trip about how you are wrong not to be stressed out about being single. If you are married, you dread spending the holidays with your in-laws, whose presence invariably casts a dark shadow over your relationship with your spouse for months after they leave. Despite this, nothing compares to the loneliness of recently divorced people during the holidays. Nothing can take your mind over the fact that your children are spending Christmas dinner with your ex and your ex’s new partner instead of with you, no matter how much you enjoy the company of the friends or relatives who have invited you to their Christmas dinner. Putting things in perspective can help you get through this holiday season. Next year, things will probably be substantially better, but the chances of improvement are stronger if you have a fair divorce settlement and an unambiguous parenting plan. For help accomplishing a divorce settlement and parenting plan that pave the way for financial wellbeing and healthy relationships in the future, contact a Boca Raton divorce lawyer.
Joining the Ranks of the Happily Single
The divorce rate has been declining for decades, so if you feel like you are the only person you know who is getting divorced, you are probably right. This doesn’t mean that everyone else is married, though. The divorce rate is lower because the marriage rate is lower. An increasing number of people in their 30s have never been married. If you spend the holidays with them, you will be in the company of people who know a thing or two about how awesome it is to be single.
Most People Who Get Divorced Once Get Married Twice
If you are not convinced that being single is awesome, take heart. The chances that you will remarry after divorce are higher than you think they are. About two thirds of people who have gotten divorced once get married a second time. Yes, the percentage of second marriages that end in divorce is higher than the percentage of marriages that end in divorce, but some second marriages last forever. You and your next special someone might learn from the mistakes of your prior marriages and build a marriage that lasts forever.
Your Prenup Might Be Your Saving Grace
Another recent marriage trend is that more young couples are signing prenuptial agreements. If you and your spouse have a prenup, it might make your divorce simpler and less expensive, or it might prevent the financial conflicts which would otherwise have led to divorce.
Contact Schwartz | White About Prenuptial Agreements
A South Florida family law attorney can help you draft a prenup or negotiate for a fair divorce settlement. Contact Schwartz | White in Boca Raton, Florida about your case.
Source:
pewresearch.org/short-reads/2025/10/16/8-facts-about-divorce-in-the-united-states/
