Divorce Goals Are Not One Size Fits All

Making you feel bad about yourself is the point of social media. You might see tabloid content about a celebrity’s adorable divorce, with pictures of recently divorced spouses celebrating their child’s birthday together or going on a double date with their new partners. Your coworkers and former classmates who are divorced might also make it look and sound like it is easier than it is. A divorced friend might post pictures of the girls’ trip she took with her sorority sisters, but you don’t hear the whole story, about how she was only able to afford it by borrowing money from her parents or paying for her plane tickets with buy now pay later (BNPL). Just as you should not feel like a failure just because your divorce did not go the same way that someone else’s went, you also should not assume that advice you read online, or that you hear from a friend, about what to prioritize in divorce applies equally to everyone. For help setting appropriate goals for divorce mediation and for your future after your divorce becomes final, contact a Boca Raton divorce lawyer.

Divorce Goal: End Your Relationship With Your Spouse on Good Terms

Amicable divorce is more feasible in some cases than others and more desirable in some cases than others. If you and your ex have children together, you will still be family even after you get divorced, so you should draft a parenting plan that enables your children to maintain a strong bond with both sides of the family. This means uncomfortable confrontation with your spouse during mediation in the interest of long-term peace.

Remember, though, that not everyone can be friends with their ex. If necessary, let your lawyers do the talking during mediation and then make peace with the uncomfortable silence where your relationship with your ex used to be.

Divorce Goal: Become Legally Single as Quickly as Possible

Haste makes waste in divorce mediation. Yes, if you insist on going to trial and making the judge rule on quibbles, just to antagonize your ex and drain your ex’s financial resources, everyone loses. A sloppily written marital settlement (MSA) agreement or parenting plan is no better, though. You will likely end up back in court to fix your mistakes, and this time the judge will be the one to decide how to fix them.

Divorce Goal: Ensure Your Long-Term Financial Stability

Don’t give up marital property that you need just to keep the peace or just to finalize your divorce more quickly. At the same time, a satisfactory marital settlement agreement is one that is fair to both spouses. If your MSA gives you enough property but leaves your ex to struggle financially, you will probably have to go back to court. Prioritize your long-term wellbeing, but not at the expense of justice.

Contact Schwartz | White About Handling Divorce Mediation Wisely

A South Florida family law attorney can help you finalize your divorce in a way that is fair to you and your spouse.  Contact Schwartz | White in Boca Raton, Florida about your case.

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