Future Faking Might Ruin Your Marriage, but It Does Not Count as Marital Misconduct

Marriage vows entail a promise to stay together through changes in financial fortune. When you marry your spouse, you are marrying the entire person, not his or her current financial situation or what you reasonably believe his or her financial circumstances will be in the future. Many couples find out too late that their spouse’s financial habits are not what the other spouse hoped that they would be. For example, when you met your spouse, you might have assumed that the reason she was sporadically employed was because she was still in graduate school, but your perspective might change when, after ten years of marriage, your spouse has never stayed more than a few months at a job before quitting. Likewise, you might find out that your spouse has a habit of making plans that depend on luck, and you might be frustrated that he never got the message that success is 99 percent perspiration, as Thomas Edison once said. This is all part of getting to know someone, as painful as it is. It is even more painful to find out that your spouse knowingly misled you about his or her financial future. It may or may not be a consolation that your rights are the same in divorce if your spouse lied to you throughout your marriage and if it is no one’s fault that your marriage fell apart. If your marriage fell apart because of lies, financial stress, or a combination of both, contact a Boca Raton divorce lawyer.

Was Your Ex-Spouse Financial Love Bombing You, Or Did You Just Get Your Hopes Up About Nothing?

The largest share of divorce cases involves couples over the age of 50. In this age group, the spouses made every effort to stay together, but eventually the breakdown of communication and trust became too much to bear. When younger couples divorce, it is often because of conflicts over money, and one of the causes of this is what journalists call “financial future faking” and psychologists call “financial love bombing.”

Financial love bombing is when, early in the relationship, one partner makes enormous and elaborate promises about the financial wellbeing that the couple will share in the future. Once the couple marries, though, the spouse who made the promises makes little effort to pursue those goals.

Financial love bombing can ruin relationships, as can any kind of love bombing. If someone is making promises about your joint future, remember that future events are largely outside either spouse’s control and that you both have a role in shaping your financial future as a family. Marital misconduct, by contrast, is when your spouse, in the last two years of the marriage, intentionally causes you financial harm, with or without lying about money, so there will be less marital property to divide when you get divorced.

Contact Schwartz | White About Divorce for People Who Believed Their Exes’ Promises

A South Florida family law attorney can help you if you found out too late that your ex’s financial plans were unrealistic.  Contact Schwartz | White in Boca Raton, Florida about your case.

Sources:

msn.com/en-us/news/technology/a-major-factor-in-gen-z-and-millennial-divorce-is-financial-future-faking-it-s-like-long-term-partner-catfishing-about-money/ar-AA1TZGKp?ocid=msedgntp&pc=ACTS&cvid=69690d5db80b41ba94bef80a42593c2d&ei=24

psychologytoday.com/us/blog/a-funny-bone-to-pick/202406/how-future-faking-can-be-used-to-manipulate-you